If you’re talking about making an influencer notice and genuinely connect with you (whether for a personal relationship or collaboration), it’s all about authenticity, value, and respect. Here’s how you can approach it:
1. Engage Authentically
- Follow them on their platforms and engage with their content in a genuine way.
- Leave thoughtful comments that add value (not just “nice post!”).
- Share their content with your own unique perspective.
2. Stand Out from the Crowd
- DM them with purpose, not just generic messages. Mention something specific about their content that resonated with you.
- If they ask for opinions in stories or posts, respond thoughtfully.
- Be consistent but not pushy—show interest without overwhelming them.
3. Offer Value Instead of Just Asking for Attention
- If you’re in the same industry, collaborate on something creative.
- Introduce them to useful connections or tools that can help their brand.
- Send them a small, thoughtful (non-creepy) gift related to their interests.
4. Find Common Ground
- If they love travel, fashion, fitness, or a certain hobby, relate to it naturally.
- Attend events or live sessions where they are active—build rapport organically.
5. Be Confident and Play the Long Game
- Don’t fanboy/girl too hard; treat them like a real person, not a celebrity.
- If you develop a friendship first, romance (if that’s the goal) will naturally follow if there’s chemistry.